The prospect of being able to get a more attractive and hotter girl from another country as your wife is what appeals to many foreign bride seekers. However, this could be a recipe for disappointment. You need a good idea of how beautiful a foreign bride you can get.
I know how this starts. Most men begin their search on-line. They are bombarded by profiles of women and photos of women in suggestive poses that wouldn’t give him the time of day in America under normal circumstances. Advertising strongly implies that these long-haired beauties are fed up with their local men and want to marry a foreign man. Your looks don’t matter! He’s skeptical but he signs up for free at one of the sights, creates a profile and uploads his photos. Responses start rolling in. Many of them are scammers but some are genuine. Even the genuine replies are coming from some pretty hot women.
This is much different from the daily grind of approaching women online or in public in America. He thinks he’s struck gold!
You know that new sense of euphoria that you’re getting from being a desired commodity? That’s what the average American woman feels between the ages of 15 and 35. She gets a ton of interest from the opposite sex and she feels she can pick and choose based on increasingly superficial criteria until at around 35 when she hits the wall and wonder where all the good men are. It’s because she was too picky. She was that kid in a candy store that passed over all the different types of candy until the store closed and now she’s stuck with nothing.
Don’t fall in this trap. Don’t think you can hold out or trade up to hotter and hotter women, because there are limits. It’s not that you’ll end up with nothing. The hotties will be more than happy to go out with you (for a price), but your goal should be a long-term relationship that will lead to marriage. You aren’t the only guy looking abroad and she is going to pick a man that she thinks is suitable for her.
Humans often practice assortative mating. This is the tendency of an individual to mate with someone who has similar attributes to yourself. Colloquially this is described as dating within your league or ladder theory in some places on the internet. It’s not that humans make a conscious decision to do this. Many do aim out of their league to try to improve their lives but they are often rejected because their romantic interest is also trying to mate with the best that she can.
If most beautiful people are rated as a 10 on a scale of 1-10 that means they are in high demand and can be more selective. If they do make a choice, they will choose a 10 as well. The rest of us have to settle for lower on the scale, but not too low! What happens under this selection criteria is that the dating and marriage market tends to stratify. 10’s will pair off with 10’s. 5’s with 5’s and 2’s with 2’s.
This is idealized but you get the point. There is often couples that have a point or two difference. You can often see a 5 with a 7, because circumstances vary and change. Maybe one partner doesn’t realize his intrinsic attractiveness. Maybe they were well matched in the past but one partner let himself go. Maybe there was something quirky about him that turned off some women in his league but somebody else higher up found authentic and endearing.
But most people think that a difference of two between levels of attractiveness is the maximum. Anything more strains credibility. If you see a 4 with a 9, for example, then there has to be an overriding factor. Often it boils down to money. But there could also be self-esteem issues, or perhaps the marriage was arranged.
This is what you need to keep in mind to achieve the best outcome when searching for foreign brides. Be mindful of your own attractiveness when deciding who to contact. Your search will be a lot less expensive and frustrating and you’ll be better off for it.
This dose of realism isn’t bad news. You will certainly end up with a more beautiful wife than what you are capable of obtaining back at home. You are likely to score the full two points higher than you on attractiveness. The fact that you are from a more economically developed country is a plus. So if you are a 5 (average attractiveness), then you should be able to obtain a 7 easily. Most people consider 7’s to be attractive so you’re doing great for yourself. If you aim for a ten, you may get her, but people will suspect things like she only married you for the citizenship to your country. That’s assuming the relationship even lasted that long.