If American men (AM) are anything like me, they gave up on trying to date and wife-up American women (AW) for a while now, and it seems that the AW have noticed.
Captain Capitalism answers a nagging question
Aaron Clarey, aka Captain Capitalism (CC), writes in his blog, Yes, Men Do Leave the Market. CC recalls a conversation with one of his dancing students:
AW: “Where are all the guys?”
Yea, that question sounds familiar, right?
AW: “I just get the feeling there aren’t any men anymore. Not just in dance class, but where are all the men from all the various social activities? They make up half the population, but I can’t find any single guys to date. They can’t all be married, even my female friends are running into this mysterious disappearance of men. Do they like stop trying after a while and just stay home?”
CC: “Do you mean, do men give up and don’t bother trying to find women any more?”
AW: “Yes. So do they?”
AW: “So they just give up? They don’t go out anymore? Don’t they want to find somebody? Anybody?!”
CC: “Yeah, more or less.”
AW: “That’s crazy! How do they ever expect to find anybody?”
CC: “Well…they don’t.”
Talk about not being on the same wavelength. This reminds me of complaints made by feminists who can’t find dates. According to them, feminism would be awesome if the men would just stop ruining it by staying home. Think of the extra housework and paltry sex life they would be missing out on by being married to these AW!
Demographically, there are plenty of men in the US but they are, indeed, dropping out. CC is an economist by trade and frames AM’s exodus from the dating scene in economic, cost-benefit terms. If a young AM was anything like I was, he suddenly became ferociously interested in AW while in his teens. He was entering puberty and if he wore the wrong type of pants or the wind blew just right, he would spontaneously pop an erection so hard that you can hang a wet towel on it. He wouldn’t even need to think about a girl to get this physiological response.
Unfortunately, after years of getting shot down and friend-zoned by AW, he eventually gives up. He sees that the young, nubile AW isn’t interested in a long-term relationship and begins to notice the type of boys they do end up pursuing. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that a relationship with AW is not in the cards for him. Maybe he does “get lucky” and marries an AW only to be divorced and paying a huge settlement to his ex in exchange for seeing his kids every other weekend. He discovers empirically, that AW are simply not interested in him. He goes on-line and visits the manosphere and discovers AM in the same situation he is, and he feels relieved that there isn’t really anything wrong with him and he’s not crazy. He stops going to clubs and attending socials. He avoids the mixers and other social gatherings, he refuses offers to be set up on blind dates by well-meaning family and friends. He simply decides to hang out with his friends. He might try internet dating, but after a few weeks of looking at an empty inbox he shrugs his shoulders. Being rejected by thousands and thousands of AW in your metropolitan area would be a serious blow to anyone’s self-esteem. So he pursues things that interest him alone (which tend to be things that women aren’t very interested in doing).
Basically, pursuing women is a lot of effort for very little reward. Playing X-Box or Dungeons and Dragons with your friends is low risk and high reward.
CC runs a pretty good blog and podcast so I encourage you to check it out. He gives good economic advice and even mentors young men to help them navigate modern-day life in the dating scene and the economy.
Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand is a science fiction story set in a dystopian future where the US and other countries have made the transition to pure socialism. This has the predictable effect of strangling economic growth prospects and results in a general decline of living standards. The leaders of the various socialist governments that they had created try to pass various laws and implement various programs to solve the problems but they end up making things worse.
The main protagonist, Dagny Taggart attempts to revive her family owned railroad’s fortunes by building a new rail line to facilitate the movement of goods and commodities through the country and meets with some initial success. The government swiftly begins slapping regulations and passes laws intending to redistribute wealth and resources for the betterment of all which ends up restricting Dagny’s efforts to operate the new rail line at a profit and the economy spirals down even further.
John Galt leads a revolution that will facilitate the collapse of the socialist system by encouraging producers to simply stop producing. Galt does this by convincing the producers like Dagny Taggart to stop trying. With no productive output to seize and redistribute, the government and the economy collapses so that Galt’s producers can replace the socialist system with one where hard work and innovation is rewarded by letting the producers keep it.
Many entrepreneurs and independent minded people draw inspiration from Atlas Shrugged and so the phrase “going Galt” is cast as a pop culture reference to suggest that continued regulation and taxation of the top performers in America will eventually lead them to quit adding value to American society.
Socialists and critics of the novel don’t like that idea one bit and try to debunk it based on a literal reading of the story. As usual, they miss the point. The moral of the story is there is only so much you can take away from somebody before they react. When you try to change the world to “help” people, don’t be surprised when the world actually changes! Atlas Shrugged needs to be read as an allegory.
Granted, everybody is so vested into the current economy and government that we can’t easily unplug ourselves from it like John Galt or Dagny Taggart, and even if we did, it would be a disaster. Revolutions are serious business with serious consequences. However, people in general do respond quite rationally to what government policies or social trends impose on them. A business that is operating in a high wage environment and overly taxed and regulated may seek opportunities abroad where taxes, regulations and wages are lower, and hence, America loses those jobs and productivity. When president Obama recently passed the Foreign Account Tax Compliance Act, it forced some banks overseas to drop American clients that worked overseas from using their banking services. Yet, these Americans were still being taxed by the IRS. We are now seeing a spike in Americans renouncing their citizenship with the loss of tax revenue for the US. Aren’t these examples of Americans going Galt?
Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW)
MGTOW is a movement of disenfranchised western men in the manosphere. It’s a contentious issue when trying to define or describe MGTOW or what makes a man a MGTOW. Many have tried to define it but I think the difficulty derives from the fact that the men that associate themselves as MGTOW come from a broad range of backgrounds. MGTOW isn’t an organized political movement with centralized leadership like feminism is or woman’s suffrage was. Nor do they have lobbies or elected bodies that attempt to implement their policies. Therefore this makes them difficult to define or confront in the political or economic arena.
If I were to describe MGTOW in any tangible way I would say that they are men who have gone Galt. Even then, this represents a broad spectrum of men. Some MGTOW’s are men who hope to effect change through nonparticipation. Much like the protagonists in Atlas Shrugged, they hope that their nonparticipation facilitates a collapse in the current national order and perhaps be agents in reforming and rebuilding from the debris a society that they feel is more conducive to their participation.
Other men may not even be aware of MGTOW but are MGTOW nonetheless through their lack of participation socially or economically. They are beaten down men or men who have simply given up on life.
Of course, MGTOW can’t unplug entirely from the national economy or society like John Galt and Dagny Taggart did in Atlas Shrugged, but they can reduce their participation in it as much as possible. Before you scoff at this idea, let me ask you a question:
Who do you think is more productive? A man who only needs to support himself, or a man who must support a family in addition to himself? Which one of these men will spend more money to keep the economy churning?
Do I have to say anything more? In fact, just to survive, a man doesn’t need much. He needs a bed and a roof over his head to keep his stuff dry. He’ll need some staples and that’s about it. Some have reduced their participation by taking advantage of the favorable exchange rates for dollars and moved overseas and becoming self-employed. Read some of Captain Capitalism’s blog and listen to his podcast. He describes how to live like a minimalist. MGTOW also has ideas and shared experiences about how to do this.
The Foreign Bride Seeker as MGTOW
I would consider foreign bride seekers like myself as MGTOW, or at least a version of it. They may not have withdrawn and checked out entirely from American society. Heck, I like my life here in the USA. But the social order in this country has catered to the whims of AW while AM are shouted down or pushed off the stage. Dating and marrying an AW is simply too high a price that I’m willing to pay and she likely won’t care about how I feel or think because society is too busy validating her feelings. Other AM are coming to the same conclusion and AW are noticing. Captain Capitalism wrote this article in 2008 and it is now 2015 with marriage rates still in decline. In this case, the collapse would be a social one instead of an economic one which is infinitely better since living standards won’t decline. It just might be that the foreign bride seeker may save the American man!