British men are having to cope with British women indoctrinated by feminism in the dating market just as much as any other western man in his own country. So when the Seattle Times wrote an article about the opinions some British expats living in America have about American women, it makes me take notice and wonder if the American woman is simply a problem for the American man or do men of other countries share the same opinion.
It turns out that the Brits don’t like American women much either. And that’s saying a lot because they know British women so their standards shouldn’t have been that high to begin with, and I’ve seen British men kill in America’s dating market. Their accent really gets our ladies weak in the knees (the cockney accent notwithstanding). My youngest aunt even married a British guy and seem to be living happily ever after.
Of course, it’s the guy’s fault, right? Gwyneth Paltrow was quoted:
British men appear scared to ask me out
You don’t say? At around the time this article was published, Paltrow’s star was rising rapidly. She had just won an Academy Award for best actress for her role in Shakespeare in Love, she was recently engaged to Brad Pitt and had a relationship with Ben Affleck. Within a year after this quote, she would be married to the lead singer of Coldplay and push out two kids named Apple and Moses. “Scared” wouldn’t be the right word for it. More like the Brits knew a long shot when they saw one and didn’t bother. Paltrow wasn’t an unknown. She had the stench of celebrity and could pull A-list celebrity men herself so why make a fool of yourself trying to ask this American woman out? If you think this isn’t really relevant when talking about most women, I beg to differ. The American woman thinks she is already a celebrity due to the attention she gets in public, and when social media surged onto the scene, this attitude became even worse.
But don’t expect women to own up to the problem. Feminism was all about creating a narrative in which all the evils of the world and denied opportunities to women were due to male agency and they’re not about to abandon that narrative now after it has accomplished so much on their behalf. Another article from the Spectator claims to know why the Brits don’t seem to put up with the modern woman:
a) Many went to boarding school at an early age, thus forfeiting essential affection from their mothers, leaving them all but incapable of intimacy with women.
b) Many drink too much, leaving them all but incapable of intimacy with women.
c) They are repressed homosexuals.
d) They simply don’t like women.
I’ve long stopped being amused by women’s massed delusions about men in this country and I’m not alone. James Brown, a London magazine editor says,
American Women. You can only spend so long with one before you crack. They’re out there, they’re loud, they’re bitter and they’re kooky. After a while all the things that attracted you to them: confidence, conversation, nice teeth, begin to bug you. You think you’ve got Black Beauty and you end up with Mr. Ed.
This is a blunt way of saying that many AW are all flash and no substance. We think they are pretty hot until they open their mouths in the spirit of “being assertive” or “empowered”. None of these qualities appeal to men.
Martin has had a different experience:
One of the first questions is always: “What car do I drive?” Martin says. “If I have the latest BMW or drive a Chevy, does it make a difference? And they want to know what apartment you live in. Do you live in Bellevue, because if you tell them you live in Everett, they don’t want to know you.”
This reminds me of that scene from Swingers when a guy tries to approach a woman at a party and the first question she asks is what he drives. After replying he drives a Cavalier, she turns away in disgust without saying a word. I can’t say that I’ve had this happen to me in the dating scene in the US – not so overtly anyway. But I do get asked a lot about what I do. I learned very quickly that being a chemist doesn’t really get a woman’s heart racing. A generation ago, this type of job would have commanded respect and I would have had everyone from a girl’s parents to the friends in her sewing circle advocating for me.
On the other hand, Steve describes an experience that I can corroborate:
American women reserve the right to date a whole bunch of guys at the same time.
That’s a bingo! It was often difficult for me to get traction with many AW because they always had several men in rotation and felt no need to make a commitment or devote any time to me. I either had to tolerate the present state of affairs, make an expensive gesture and hope I don’t get into a bidding war with the other guys, or simply leave. I often chose to leave while the woman and her friends were most likely assuring her that if I was “the one” I would have been completely devoted and wouldn’t have left. But seeing a woman ride the cock carousel doesn’t inspire me to get to know her any better, nor do I imagine my future wife or mother of my children with such a woman.
Then there’s Oliver’s experience with AW:
It was like being with a nasty bank manager, rather than someone with whom you hope to sleep. … American girls are possibly the most wound-up people on the planet. They don’t believe in laughing: Instead, they would go to ‘laugh class’ to find out how, then solemnly say it had changed their life.
For all the AW or British women who wonder what happened to romance and why chivalry is dead, this passage is very telling. I can’t think of a faster way to suck romance out of the relationship than when a woman treats it like a financial transaction.
Is this getting through to anybody yet? It can’t just be the problem of a few lonely men when the British men find that AW are even worse than British women! The only thing that surprises me is why there aren’t more American men looking overseas.