Chateau Heartiste from the man-o-sphere has a recent post about the dramatic decline in marriage rates over the past century. According to research from National Center for Family and Marriage Research of Bowling Green State University:
…the U.S. marriage rate is 31.1, the lowest it’s been in over a century. That equals roughly 31 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women. Compare that to 1920, when the marriage rate was a staggering 92.3.
For the women that do decide to get married, the average age of their first marriage is almost 27 years. From the study:
Furthermore, a woman’s average age at first marriage is the highest it’s been in over a century, at nearly 27 years old.
For an American man looking for a wife, this is bleak news if these trends continue. I would argue that the numbers already paint a bleak picture. This is very relevant to those of us seeking Russian women (RW) for marriage. It shows that we’re not completely crazy. One of the reasons I tell people about why I search for a RW is simply because American women (AW) simply don’t want to get married, but nobody believes this reason. Now there’s data proving it.
The authors cite a politically correct reason: that marriage is now one of many options available to couples such as cohabitation. But this is nonsense. It has more to do with the noncommittal nature of AW. I’ve witnessed it first hand. Very few women are even considering marriage until after they get their college degrees and been in the market for a few years. That’s if they even think of it at all. Many AW assume that it will follow some romantic comedy script and a suitor will simply plop in their lap.
I’d expect that there will still be some denial over this dramatic, sociological change. The more astute observers would ask what is driving this change? And it often comes down to it being the men’s fault. We’re either afraid of commitment or we aren’t manning up and taking responsibility. Denial is a powerful force, isn’t it? Or perhaps men are noticing that marriage doesn’t seem to be on woman’s minds anymore so why try. AW are occupied by their careers and living the Sex and the City lifestyle. I suppose they don’t object to being married eventually after they have their fun and settle down, but by that time, they have a 500 point checklist and hooked up and slept with dozens of men. You don’t think these factors aren’t driving the decline of marriage?
AW will still be in denial over this and say they want to get married but simply haven’t found the right guy. Sorry ladies, if you were really serious about getting married–if you’re really making it a priority–you’d have realized that time is not on your side in regards to your looks and fertility; the only two things that matter to a man who’s serious about marriage. You’d be starting your husband search as soon as you graduated high school. You also wouldn’t let yourselves get more and more obese. You’d be dressing nicer and wearing more makeup. You would put the word out to your friends that you were in the marriage market and not let them sabotage your chances. You’d also be mentioning in your online profiles on Match, eHarmony or even Facebook, that you’re looking for a husband. But you aren’t. You’re hooking up while watching life go by.
To be fair, Russia might be following the same trend. Marriage rates in Russia have started to decline while the average age of marriage seems to be increasing, but it’s still in the beginning stages and it may take nearly a generation for it to get as bad as it has in the US. The USSR seems to have adhered to the traditional family unit while feminism was taking root in the US so Russia may have simply gotten a late start. It’s a matter of speculation as to how long it will take for Russia to catch up to the west or will there be unique cultural influences that moderate the change? Time will tell. But for the American man who wants to get married, it would help his chances if he looked for women that actually want to get married and made that goal a priority. That’s why he considers RW.